Father’s Day
should be a day to reflect about all aspects of fatherhood; being a father, a
husband, and a son. Too many times it becomes about “Me the father,” and not
enough about the other facets of life. Being the father and wanting that
recognition is pretty important to all fathers, but how are we doing with
fatherhood.
Are we the
fathers our children need? I can’t tell anyone how to be a perfect father, the
good Lord knows I’ve not been anywhere near a perfect father. But I can promise
to work hard and be a better father each day. Be there for them when they’re
happy and when they’re sad; when they are healthy and when their nose runs; when
they hit the homerun and when they throw the interception; when she loses the
beauty pageant or wins the science fair. No matter what, be there for them.
What about
their Mother, Father’s Day is about recognizing how important being a good
husband is to actually being a good father. Whether married or divorced, being
good to the children’s mother is extremely important to the children. Sometimes
it is hard and sometimes it is a loving chore that we are more than happy to
complete; however, being a good father is predicated on being a good husband
(or in some cases an amicable ex-husband).
Then there
is being a son. This is where many of us have had problems in the past. We all
have a father or father-figure in their life (and sometimes that could be a
single mother). Whatever your situation is, you are someone’s child. SO, on
this Father’s Day take a few minutes and think about your father, or
father-figure, and give thanks for those virtues they have given you. The let
them know how much you appreciate them.
I used to
think of all these sort of days as greeting card holidays, but if you dedicate
a short bit of thought to them they can all produce some self-improving aspects.
Use these days to think on those things that are important to you, but also use
them to help you to remember these same values on those days that aren’t “special”
holidays.
Happy Father’s
Day to everyone and I hope that we all take the time to consider our lives, how
we live them, and how our lives affect those around us and reflect on us as a
parent, spouse, and child.
By the way,
I did get a lot of fishing stuff, but no boat….
Bill
